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What a sub needs
Written by: carla
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A sub needs to be able to give her everything to her Master. To let Him have absolute control, of everything she does. She wants Him to make her serve Him.. it makes her feel fulfilled to serve Him. Serving drinks to Him or His friends.. or maybe something as simple as ordering her at His feet. Maybe it’s just a certain greeting she must always do, as long as it is an order from Him. His control is how she feels free, how she feels complete, how she feels good about herself. When she has disappointed or displeased Him, she feels as if a part her is torn, and the punishment He distributes mends it. When she has done something He asked, or pleased Him, a reward shows His pleasure with her, and makes her feel like she has been given the world. Sometimes something as simple as a pat on the head and a “good girl” can make her swell with pride and happiness.
she needs these simple affirmatives more than even the punishments to feel herself a good, and pleasing sub. Even after she has completed a punishment, she should be praised, if it was done well (or taken as a true submissive woman, with pride and remorse, if it was a physical one). A sub also needs daily orders to feel that she has truly given control to Him. Things such as Him telling her to wear something special to show her submission to Him. Such as a ring or a necklace, or a special colored piece of clothing. Anything, as long as it is an order and command from Him. Or perhaps something like having her do something for Him simply as it is His whim.. perhaps like describing in detail what she has on, or telling her to put her hair up, or down a certain way.. and it shouldn’t matter what time of day it is or who is around.. if Master speaks, it is done.
Such things make her feel even more cherished and cared for because He wants her all the time, not just at a convenient time to her. (Wanting does not always mean sexual wanting, but a simple need and wanting of her to His soul.) Also, because she can’t always be with Him, though she wants to, instructions should be left often. Things for her to complete and report back to Him via email or phone, or simply the next time He speaks to her. Things such as release (sexual) instructions, on specific ways or places or times to climax. Or perhaps verbal instructions, things she must say during the day, perhaps something about Him. Or perhaps other physical instructions, things she must do, such as getting on her knees or in a certain other position for a certain amount of time, or washing a certain way or pattern, or eating at a certain time or a certain food. The possibilities are endless. But all these things she needs on a daily basis from Him for her to feel good about herself as a sub, and simply as a woman. These are her basic needs. And more so than food and water to her body, these needs are to her soul. |
